This quote really struck a chord with me today
You see, often times we forget the role our friends should play in our lives. We compromise fundamental values. We go on mental beatings for weeks— sometimes months- YEARS.
If you find that you are helping more than you are being helped you NEED to take control.
It’s about balance.
Friends won’t give friends ultimatums “if you don’t do ________ than your not my friend” Listen to all these red flags instead of continuing complacency with your own life and goals.
STOP putting yourself on HOLD and buckling— you should strive for happiness DAILY.
Yes DAILY, this isn’t being optimistic as so much as it’s something you’ve always deserved. Remember that.
At NO TIME should you put your wants and needs on a shelf while thinking “maybe so and so will realize what a great friend and person I am and all the sacrifices I’ve made” How many times have we done that? Try saying that to yourself in a mirror— then take a long look at yourself and think “When am I going to realize what a great friend I’ve been and all the sacrifices I’ve made only to be put in the position where I even need to HAVE THIS THOUGHT?! Be real with yourself.
There are people that are aware TODAY of how precious your friendship is— and although they are harder to pin point, you will find that as soon as you do, YOU SOAR.
Friends don’t grow to be grateful for the person you WERE, they know NOW, TODAY, this VERY INSTANT and WITHOUT HESITATION.
Don’t think on behalf of a person you have no control over— Listen to your gut above rationalizing someone else’s mind.
Let’s revisit the definition of rationalizing— I try to reread definitions on a clear conscience so over time so I haven’t changed the meaning in my own head.
Rationalizing is attempting to explain or justify (one’s own or another’s behavior or attitude) with logical, plausible reasons, even if these are not true or appropriate.
As logical and as plausible as you might think your ideas are of why you continue to be brought down by friends and family— ALWAYS SEEK trustworthy people who are willing to give you sound advice and pull you out of a bad place.
Why do I believe that I can do anything I put my heart and drive into? How have I gone through 3 body transformations? How was I able to be the person I am today to create this platform to write, inspire, and motivate?
By learning to identify great friends. There are too many people out there to not be loved and supported properly.
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As always, thank you for your support.
- Model Warren